Choosing nanny for a child

The most realistic ways to find nannies following:
Nanny Search through acquaintances, neighbors, relatives

In most cases, Nanny search through friends, neighbors and relatives is the best option. With a large proportion of probability, under which nurses searched in this way will be familiar to people who advised her or found. However, as a rule, nannies with a bad reputation does not advise or warn about it. The negative side in this case - the possibility of "leakage of information" from the family and its promulgation in your circle of acquaintances, which is not always good.
Nanny-kin

In this case, there is a huge positive point - if your relative nurse - then you know it well, and she will try to help you in the upbringing of your chad. The second important advantage is payment for services - at best, it can generally be minimal or absent. The negative point - again, "leaking information" from the family, besides your relatives you can impose their thoughts and advice on education, which is not always good.
Choosing nanny through a specialized agency Nannies

Many parents think that the way to one of the best, but practice shows quite different. First, the market exists today a huge number of such companies, most of interpreting did not even know the basic requirements, which are offered for nannies. Secondly: Nanny through the agency of choice - are additional finance for the services of the agency. And, thirdly, very little assurance that the nurse will be competent. Of the positive aspects - if the services of an authoritative agency can find a good nanny.
The use of district and urban labour exchanges

Two positive - Exchange usually quite good employee qualification checks - even on paper, but it's better than nothing. The second plus - a wide choice of candidates, and pay for babysitting, selected through an exchange, usually slightly below average.
Search nurses through advertisements in newspapers, magazines, Internet

This option - probably the worst they represented, though cheap. In this case you do not know virtually nothing about a person who will watch over your child.

Once you have chosen a suitable candidate must meet a future nurse, to talk with her. Not bad, if it gives you letters with feedback on its work. Unknown nurses need to verify using all available means to you - what are its habits and lifestyles, attitudes towards drugs and alcohol, her health and wealth.

Not advisable to take the nanny without work experience, very young or very old. It is desirable that it were their own children, even adults.

Not bad, if the teacher or nurse has medical education, knowledge of foreign languages, know how to sing, beautifully paints, has an interesting hobby (embroidery, animals, collecting stamps, badges ...), favour of the sport.

We strongly recommend immediately introduce nanny with the kids, look at her reaction and the reaction of the child.

If you arranged for candidacy - it is desirable to conclude a contract with the nurse, which will be prescribed it and your responsibilities, working conditions and pay.

In addition, read the main responsibilities of babysitting and what needs to be done to improve care for your children.

Interviewing Babysitters

While babysitters are often hired on a night-to-night basis, they still require a thorough interview process. It's important to cover all of the questions offered in Interviewing Care Providers 101, but before you hire a sitter you may also want to ask the following:
Are you available on short notice?
Have you worked as a mother's helper or cared for younger siblings?
Have you completed a babysitting course?
What experience do you have with this age group?
Do you know child or infant CPR and first aid?
What would you do if my child was choking?
What is your comfort level with cooking and preparing meals for kids?
Are you comfortable with bathing the children and bedtime routines? What experience do you have with this?

kids are just as superficial and shallow as we adults are

By Christopher Noxon

LOS ANGELES (Reuters Life!) - Often in the course of family life, a parent must face inconvenient or downright disturbing truths about children that fly in the face of what we believe about our influence as parents and human nature itself.

Before becoming a parent, for instance, I genuinely believed I could convince my offspring that Barney the Dinosaur is in fact evil and does not actually love them.

I was also convinced that my children would be the first toddlers in history to possess, thanks to their kindly father, impeccable table manners and a keen appreciation of historical documentaries, late-90s acoustic mope rock and Alaskan scenery.

On all these counts, I was forced to face facts. News flash: kids love Barney, do not generally appreciate the genius of Ken Burns or Elliot Smith and will never, ever, even if you shell out many thousands of dollars on a pleasure cruise of Glacier Bay, give a damn about the majesty of the wild when there's a buffet table piled with cookies behind them.

Still, hope dies hard. Throughout my first years of fatherhood, I clung to some ridiculously starry-eyed and politically correct notions about children.

I believed they are born virtuous and free-thinking, that meanness, superficiality and arbitrary gender norms are learned via reality TV and unlicensed child care providers.

Left to their own devices, I imagined children would establish a just, happy society filled with toys and cake.


REALITY BITES

I managed to maintain this cheery outlook despite mounting evidence to the contrary. Qualities I'd assumed would come naturally to my kids -- fairness, patience, civility - seemed entirely absent in my young charges. Often, they could be just plain mean.

My three-year-old son, for instance, appeared to enjoy nothing more than batting his infant sister on the head with a Lincoln Log.

Even as I disciplined him, I found a way to justify - or at least reconcile - the occasional outburst of savagery. He was, I mused, simply expressing the innate impulses of his primate forefathers.

Which also helped explain the kids' stubborn refusal to conform to the carefully constructed gender-neutral world my wife and I had assembled for them, painting their nursery a neutral shade of avocado and providing each with unisex playthings.

We cringed when a relative, usually a grandparent, did something so gauche as give our daughter a baby doll or our son a toy steam locomotive.

But wouldn't you know it: our firstborn son came out of the womb crazy for trains and our daughter instantly gravitated to ballerinas and princesses and to this day gripes about putting on any garment that isn't sufficiently pink and sparkly.

One militantly gender-neutral friend who had withheld dolls from her daughter says she once walked in on her daughter cooing to a toy truck she'd swaddled in a pink blankie.

OK, so children are born barbarians, boys like boy stuff and girls often fall prey to the tyranny of pink.

But none of that quite compared to the hard lesson in human nature I learned from the hot babysitter.

Allow me to explain. A few years ago my wife and I took the kids for a weekend to a fancy hotel. We planned to have a grown-up dinner and arranged a babysitter look after the kids.

When informed of our plans, the kids expressed terror at the prospect of spending the entire evening with a stranger; they whined and worried the entire day. Then the door opened and in stepped a 19-year-old yoga instructor with impossibly long limbs and the bone structure of Sophia Loren in "The Black Orchid."

Both kids latched on to the sitter's pantleg and looked up at her adoringly. For the two of us, they had just one word: "Bye!"

All their fears and insecurities had evaporated in an instant. I've since heard similar stories from other parents - even naturally nervous and clingy kids, it seems, often display an eerily natural level of comfort and security when left with comely caretakers.

None of this should be so surprising. Scientists have proven that aesthetics are hard-wired into the brain, that even infants stare longer at pictures of lovelier faces, that otherwise unconditionally loving parents lavish more attention and praise on prettier kids than goony ones.

In other words, kids are just as superficial and shallow as we adults are. Hard lesson in human nature indeed.

(Christopher Noxon is a freelance writer. Any opinion in the column are solely those of Mr. Noxon. You can e-mail him at cnoxon@sbcglobal.net.)

womans libido

Libido in freydizme - a theoretical concept designed to explain the dynamics of mental life on the basis of analogy with the energy, as it is treated in physics. Originally Z. Freud understood only by the energy of sexual libido attraction, especially with a form of unconsciousness. Then it was extended to other forms of conduct relating to the relationship of parents to children, to himself. Because the libido can be not only energy potential, but also a certain direction, the situation had been made that an individual may develop libidoznoy redirect energies in a new direction. Thus was formulated the idea of displacement and replacement fixity sexual libido through regression or sublimation. The final version of psychoanalysis Hatfield libido energy understood framework of two major attraction rights - to the pleasure of life and (Eros), on the one hand, and the destruction and death (Thanatos) on the other. U KG Young libido is not associated with sexuality, and is seen as a vital mental energy metaphysical status, the individual facing as unconscious desire, oblekaemoe in a symbolic form.
Libido women are not dependent on the level of androgens

According to a new study by Australian researchers, the level of androgens in the blood of women is not associated with a lowered libido.

According to various data, a reduced libido meets from 8-50% of women. This is a violation of sexual function may occur for a variety of psychosocial and medical reasons. It was believed that the decreased content of testosterone in the blood - a sign of low libido.

Susan R. Davis and her colleagues from Monash Medical School (Victoria, Australia) examined 1423 women from 18 to 75 years. They measured the blood content in general and free testosterone, and androstenediona degidroepiandrosterona sulfate. In addition, the women answered the questionnaire Profiles Women's Sexual Functions. "

"We did not find any evidence that there was a link between sexual function and levels of testosterone. Measuring the content of sex hormones in the blood has no diagnostic value. however, our results do not mean that the treatment of sexual disorders testosterone ineffective. sex hormones really affect sexual function simply can not be diagnosed, focusing only on the level of androgens in the blood "- the researchers write.
Women receiving pill for the prevention of pregnancy, to reduce their risk of ever libido, said group of American Scientists. Ian Sample Women host pill for the prevention of pregnancy, to reduce their risk of ever libido, said group of American Scientists. Researchers from Boston University Medical College found that women who regularly host to the contraceptive pill, have significantly reduced the level of hormones responsible for sexual desire. The level remains low hormone content, even when they cease to take drugs. Scientists involved in research, appealed to the doctors with a recommendation to warn women about the potential danger before prescribe pills, and doctors criticized for having oral contraceptives are distributed to the right and left? Like candy?. However, the Royal College of general practitioners hastened to assure women that oral contraceptives are safe and encouraged them not to abandon the pills because of this discovery. Claudia Panzer and Irwin Goldstein was subjected to an analysis of 124 women who were treated from sexual dysfunction. Half of them had used the pill regularly, so as not to get pregnant, stopped just 39 of their drinking, and 23 had never used oral contraceptives. Researchers analyzed blood samples of all the women for traces of substances called steroids--beta-binding globulin (SHBG). Contraceptives are forced organism to produce an excessive amount of SHBG, which reduces the level of testosterone, a hormone that causes sexual desire. Blood tests showed that women who regularly took oral contraceptives, a very low level of testosterone, about 4 times lower than that of those who never used them not. The blood samples of women who stopped the use of such pills, showed that four months after this reduced level of SHBG, but still twice the norm. ? Most of us are concerned that there is little evidence that the level of SHBG after the cessation of the use of pills and will fall further?, said Dr. Panzer. ? originally estimated that the level will return to normal within six weeks, but now we fear that these women SHBG levels will remain elevated. Accordingly, the level of testosterone they will be very low, which is very important to their sexuality?. ? I am so frightened. Birth control pills distributed as candy, but no one said that they could do with the sexual desire of women, said Dr. Panzer. Doctors, ticketing, oral contraceptives, women should say, what effect they may cause?. Tablets most common form of contraception in Britain, he enjoyed 26% of women between 16 and 49 years. Dr. Mayur Lakhani, chairman of the Royal College of general practitioners, said:? I want to assure women's safety and effectiveness of pills for contraception and to emphasize that not discontinue use of tablets based on the results of the study. Loss of libido is a well-known side effect, but from the experience of medical practice to be that the majority of women are not coming at all.
Dr. Lakhani added: if someone from the women on this occasion there was concern, it should consult with their physician.

Music for Your Baby

Music is a wonderful way for you to calm and soothe your baby, especially
during the first year. How many times have your heard parents say that
there was nothing that they could do with their crying, fussing baby until
they tried music. This is because music does indeed soothe the savage
beast, or in this case, the baby.
There are certain distinct sounds that have been proven to calm even fussy
babies: the sounds of nature, white noise, and music. Even if your baby
isn’t fussing or crying you may want to use music as often as you can to
encourage that feeling of calm and peacefulness. All it takes is a few
minutes every day and before you know it your baby will be looking forward
to hearing that certain song emanating from the CD player.
There is nothing complicated or mysterious about introducing your baby to
music from day one. You don’t need to search for the perfect song or a
certain type of music. All you have to do is start by having your baby
listen to your favorite songs and music. If jazz is on the top of your
list, let your baby listen to the sounds of John Coltrane as he sits in his
baby seat watching you in the kitchen. It doesn’t matter if you play the
schmaltzy songs of the eighties or some wicked African beat, your baby is
going to listen and his mood is going to be altered by any musical sound
that he hears.
Besides the music that you yourself can introduce your baby to, there are
hundreds of CDs on the market today that are filled with baby songs and
lullabies. At the end of the day you may want to play a CD of quiet baby
songs that have a slower beat. There are so many CDs for you to choose
from that you will have a hard time making up your mind. Choose something
that interests you. Many baby CDs will have lullabies and faster beat
songs on the same CD.

Детские игрушки

Игрушек у нас целая коробка. Вот часть из них. Чтобы они ему не надоедали, часть игрушек я прячу на 3 недели. Одни из самых первых – это, конечно, погремушки. Я вот резиновых зайку и лисичку Феликс очень любит, когда они пищат он улыбается и разговаривает на своем языке.

Childbirth Video, not mine

From birth to 10 months and (development of a baby)

We have a boy ! He was born at March 8! And we called it - Felix (which means "happy").
March 8, 2007 (Thursday) 12.45, our son was born, weight-2,550 kg., growth-46 sm.Pri appearance at the light Felya yelled 2 times. After giving birth to a baby put boksik.V box injected glucose for the body, as was born prematurely (8 months), and was weak, as a small vorobushek. Stop at karapuza papkin was as much finger on his hand. On Sunday (11 March), Felix podrezali tongue, so that it was easier to suck the chest. March 13, we issued from the hospital. According to the parish home, I am very experienced, as we will live as a child, where he will sleep until cot not be upgrading. But in a couple of days, all secured, and we have to live wait.

Small slept most of the time, waking to eat, then covered again. At night, too, waking every two hours, I fed him. First vysypalas not, but then accustomed.
March 18, eliminated the belly button. First, he almost retired and began zadevat clothing that brought many small concern. We decided to cut off the Pope. Prodezinfitsirovali nozhnichki alcohol, prepared zelenku, met the spirit and obrezal his dad, and I quickly poured in pupochek green and playing together, we should not hell.

BCG done March 19 (immunizations). Do not at the time, because the hospital has reached confusion in my name.
March 19 - we descended into clinic, our weight - 2 kg.608gr. Height -46 see
March 22 - the first time swim. Lejeal Felix quite calmly. Bast we do not use, I Soap his hand.

April 7 - for the first time trimming nails.
April 12, weighed - 4 kg. Growth-48sm. The volume of the head - see 37
April 13, made vaccinated.
At 1.8 months, the son smiled with open eyes for the first time.
On the night of 7 / 8 May Felya slept from 1 to 4.45, no wakes. For us, this event, as he usually wakes up every 2 hours.
May 10 - 4 kg 800 gr. Growth - see Volume 56 head-39sm. Volume breast-38sm.
May 14, made vaccinated against polio and diphtheria. After Felix them not kapriznichal by morning, it was 37.3. Already chair 1 day 3 times a day with my help. Povetkin him a piece of soap in pop.
May 14-15-16 response smile appeared on our speech.
18-19 expression of delight came in the form of a small pro. When Mohammad, said AGU very clearly, simply chic.
20-May Felichka dulki began to rotate.
24-May Felka took fingers in his mouth and sosal.
June 8 - at Felki naladilsya chair every day.
June 10 Felya started well keep golovushku lying on the stomach.
June 13 - weight-5,800 kg-63 sm.gemoglobin growth-104. "hemofer" prescribed.
During the night of 19 to 20 June Felya slept from 21.00 to 2.00, but he had 2 days the temperature 37 degrees.
June 27, we went to the USI goal. brain in the center of mother and child, a doctor suggested Katorcha that Fely at birth was a small hemorrhage in the right hemisphere formed thrombus, psevdokista. We have appointed treatment (pantogam, tsinarizin, lecithin, salt baths, massage 20 days) for a month, then re-tested for 3 months. But I give 2 weeks medication because kapriznichal baby from them. Lecithin, I gave a month. I have read all sorts of articles about psevdokistu on the Internet and decided not to travel on repeated tests, as the baby developed normally. He smiles have long been in the bath, trying to say.
4iyulya - Felya 2 times their nipples stuck in the mouth. The second day of massage. Massage really like him. Got experienced masseuse.
9iyulya - scored another 600 mg. Rose by 1 sm.Prodolzhaet drink pantogam (1 / 4 taboo. 2 times a day), tsinarizin (also), lecithin.
July 9 - Felya perevernulsya himself on the abdomen.
July 11 - Felya began to stretch the right-handle and look at it ..
July 22 - I bite Felkiny foot, as if he laughed.
July 27 - Fele not spitsja (22.06 pm), and lay groaning, taking the strap from raspashonki and suck it, looking at the monitor and I am running it smart and teats. A couple of days ago he began to talk again. 22.10 now, I gave him pens scarf, he regurgitated the nipple and suck piece scarves and screams (uyuuyuuyuuguyuguigui-around so), so difficult sleeps. And by the way, and he had to stomach upside fist in the mouth. More recently we have become rinsed after swimming directly with the head of our miracle. Yesterday, he took off, holding hands.
July 28 - fell asleep Felix to 23.00 and 5.45 in the wake. PROGRESS.
5 August Felya already touches to the toys podvyazannye prams already sadim not long gnaws ring, and began to shout a little rebellious.
8 August - weight-7,300 kg., growth - 66 sm.Sdelali immunizations for 4 month, moved well without the temperature.
August 10 - fed only 3 nights and 6 in the morning.
15 August - the folder under the Beef schekotal baby, and he laughed so funny.
Already gave him drink juice Peach, it is like.
August 16, Felka wake, and began to speak "will" and let bubbles.
August 25, our child stuck a finger right foot in his mouth. :-).
31 August Felya slept in a dream and started to cry and not as could not calm down.
September 1 - grabbed pipku for themselves.
September 7 - 7,800 kg., 67 cm, 4 days ago quarter Yolk tried, the next day - tvorozhok, then potatoes, and the matter went ...
September 14 - sits better eat everything (porridge, vegetable puree, juice, cookies.)
September 23 - we pokrestili Felix. The church acted well.
A small cut teeth. Beeps ... sitting. Consider the feet.
October 11 - 8,670 cm in weight clothing and pamperse. Height - 69 immunizations see done. Temperatures have been high on the second night started hovering. Already delivers syllables ba, ma, pa. Sometimes even - father, baba, Mom. Week began as a neck rub. She said the doctor, the answer - it must necessarily give vitamin D. Walks in hodunke build two legs.
October 14 - were visiting the nana Natasha. They tried a banana. Like. And I started on 12 October menstruation.
Zubok yet. Trying to write in bed, but it is produced spontaneously.
October 18 - Felya tasted meat. Pokakal first time in the pot. A couple of days ago ate fish. Sam already faced with a sitting position, holding on to the cot. In the tub already lying on the back does not want to, just sitting and grabbed for the railings.
October 29 - began to make itself Felya ladushky. Only chuck.
4 November - Felya fell from wheelchair, did not find grandfather. Like cost. A 18 October gave birth to a girl neighbour Lilja Emilia, we went on a visit to watch. Cum still sleeps poorly at night, wakes up frequently. Vampiress well - manku, puree, cottage cheese, oatmeal, fish, banana, apple juice. Kaka in the pot. And then he started to go to hodunke, not just building, and steps.
November 8 - weight-9 kg, rising 70 cm, was Felya away from Igor, naslushalsya, came home and started talking "yes tadya is ..."
November 22 - went into hospital, Olga Ivanovna, made USI head, said that the brain is developed normally, things are not growing that this may not be sosudik under the angle at all, this feature, rather than pathology. Do blood-2 +. A surgeon pushed him to the head, said to do so when the try, but fimoz is. Already can perevorachivatsya on his back. At hodunke flies, but when there is music, the pritantsovyvaet.
November 25 - the sun was on our feet without the support of himself 15 seconds. I watched and did not Hence. Coming soon to walk.
29noyabrya - Felya learned to read in hodunke ago.
18 December - the weight of 9,500 kg, the growth-71sm, hemoglobin-122, started well to crawl forward on the couch, talking in their own language, begin to understand both intonation that can be that it is not.
21 December - I touched nail Felkinu lower gums and came to the firm.
22dekabrya - in the evening, before going to bed, I touched a finger ukololas and gums. tooth really feels. And yet we already face, not long, but the stand.
January 1 - Felix began to make separate steps.
January 14 - Felya already can go almost the entire room (a breeze :-)), as if to keep him by the arm, as it is needed. Zubov 3 pc. lower. A couple of days ago, was a doctor (due to the temperature 39) late lungs - just crepitation is, and red neck, prescribed oksamoks, flyuditek, subtil 3 times a day, 5-6 days.
18yanvarya-_ went to polyclinics. Weight - 10,130 kg dressed, growth - see 74 Walks very well could go through room. Leave everything alert badly. Total zubika 3. Says "ka ka eye is not proud of its" beeps already understands when his film, sponge otvorachivaet. Responsible yes, Felix? " -- "Yes, light." (not always ))-).